Something I’ve been pondering lately is how we, as human beings, let other human beings make or break our day and it is so bizarre to me. Doing small things like opening a door for someone, smiling at someone walking past you or introducing yourself to someone new can make our entire day, but then on the other hand, ignoring someone, saying something hurtful or forgetting something important to another person can make us feel unimportant or let down.

But why can’t we make our own happiness? If you think about it, we’re the only ones who truly know how to make ourselves happy.  No one else in the world knows the things that make your soul rejoice or your heart smile, so why wouldn’t you do those things for yourself?  Start your morning with your favorite coffee, even if that means waking up five minutes earlier. Download the new music you’ve been wanting and listen to it while you’re on a walk or take an hour to do yoga or go workout. Whatever makes us happy, why don’t we just do it? Instead, we just let other people’s words and actions bear this heavy weight on our minds and waste our precious energy and a day goes by that we could have used on bettering ourselves.

I’m going to challenge myself to do at least one more thing each day that makes me happy. When someone does something that I think could have the potential to ruin my day, or a thought comes into my head that could possibly bring me down, I’m going to add another “happy.” My hope is that all the “happies” will just add up so the “sads” will be so small that I won’t even notice them anymore. Food for thought!




Your Opinion is Not My Reality.

“Your soul knows the geography of your destiny.
Your soul alone has the map of your future,
Therefore you can trust this indirect, oblique side of yourself.
If you do, it will take you where you need to go,
But more importantly it will teach you a kindness
Of rhythm in your journey.”
-John O’Donohue

I saw this poem earlier and I thought I would just write a post about self-worth. So many of us get so caught up in our daily struggles or what other people say or think about us. I’ll be the first one to admit that I’m guilty of this. Read this next sentence very carefully. “Your opinion is not my reality.” No one else can tell you what you think of yourself; your opinion is the only one that matters. How do you want others to perceive you? What mark do you want to leave on the world? Think about those questions every morning when you wake up and start your day.

Like John O’Donohue’s poem above says, your soul knows the map of your future. It knows where to take you and it will not lead you astray. Trust your soul and your intuition. You will end exactly where you are supposed to, so do not stress. There will be bad days, but they are all leading you where you were meant to be. If there were no bad days, how would you know how good a great day feels? Follow yourself and let your heart light shine into the world and you will leave a beautiful imprint wherever you go.

I could read this post a hundred times over, but even then it might not be enough to cleanse my mind of the things the people who I thought were the closest to me have said to hurt me in my past, but I am healing. Every second and every day is part of that process. I need to make the conscious effort to push those people and those thoughts out of my mind and have a free spirit and a pure mind.  My aunt told me this today, I know the real me, God knows the real me, my family knows the real me. That is what matters. God would not have brought me this far to abandon me. Like the poem, I need to trust my soul and the path it is on to my destiny and know these trials and “happy accidents” are all a part of that beautiful journey.

One day, I will look back at the hard days and smile. So for now, I’m going to do my best to breathe and accept them for what they are. I will do my best to remember my self-worth and I will not let anyone tell me any negative thoughts.